We all have wants.
Sometimes it may feel wrong to want. Maybe we feel like we’re being ungrateful, or that we should be satisfied with what we have. While it may be true on a spiritual level that we lack nothing and everything we could ever want is already inside of us, that doesn’t change the fact that we are blessed with a human body that has human needs.
When we recognize that we have needs – and that those needs are important – we can ask for what will get those needs met.
To become a good asker, get clear (like when you’re setting intentions) on what it is you want, why you want it and from whom you want it.
There’s no real prompt from Five Minutes in the Morning today, but it does list some examples of how to be a more effective asker:
- Know exactly what you want. Try to write your request down in one simple sentence. Clarity of needs leads to confidence in requesting
- Ask the right person – know who is in a position to say yes, and know why they should say yes. List the reasons and consider if it would convince you
- Explain what the yes will involve from the person you’re asking
- Practice with smaller asks
- Be okay with no. No doesn’t mean the end of the world. It simply means nothing has changed
- Be bold
- Be clear
- Realize the answer will always be no if you never ask
Ask politely, yet confidently. If your wonderful mind can imagine every worst-case scenario it is capable of imagining a best-case scenario, or simply a scenario where you get what you want. Expect a yes, but rationalize a no.
What can you ask for today, dear reader?